Fun Times with Dad: After my kids’ performance in the Wizard of Oz, my daughter took me backstage for a behind the scenes look into her role off-stage.
Is It Okay to Spank?
Yes, spanking your children is okay, if done correctly. The Bible is clear that we are not to withhold the “rod” in discipline. The bible says, “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of discipline will remove it far from him.” (Proverbs 22:15) So much of what I read recently in the media about spanking is that parents should not do it. But the definition in which they define spanking is not the way to do it anyway. Spanking is helpful in parenting when you do it correctly.
Reasons for the Proper Use of the Rod in Biblical Discipline
- Remove foolishness (Proverbs 22:15)
- Demonstrate love (Proverbs 13:24)
- Deliverance (Proverbs 23:13-14)
- Yield peaceful fruit (Hebrews 12:11)
Suggested Steps when Spanking
(from A Biblical Approach to Parenting)
- Give clear expecations ahead of time. Do not repeat warnings.
- If an offense has been committed, proceed to a private setting and check your self control.
- Have a discussion about the behavior and attitude and what it was versus what was expected.
- Place smaller children across your lap, have older kids lean over a bed or chair.
- Use a “rod”, such as a wooden spoon, for a predetermined number of spanks on the bottom.
- Once your child regains composure discuss how they did with it.
- If repentant, pray with them and encourage your child to make better choices in future.
- Give your child a hug and kiss, tell them you love them and remind them of the purpose of discipline.
Parenting takes wisdom from God, a standard of righteousness, a willing parent, and a lot of work. In other words, dedication, patience and persistence! Biblical discipline is having the goal of correction, not punishment. Punishment is looking back, correction is looking to the future.